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October 27, 2017

Sexuality, Conservatism & Fear: What Scares Bi and Gay Boys #BroTalk

Filed under: News — Scottie @ 18:20

A well written work with lots of information and feeling. It reminds me of what I was going through so many many years ago in the 1970’s. We were fighting the outspoken hate filled bigot Anita Bryant. I can remember the fear of the guys in P.E. class finding out I was gay. I heard it every day from home, school, and everywhere I went it seemed about how bad being gay was. At my home it was common to hear slurs and horrible stories of how criminal and depraved homosexuals were, and musings about why they were not confined to asylums or looked up in prisons. I am glad of the hope in this post and the call to arms also. I look forward to the day when these ideas are on the trash heap of the past. Hugs


  1. Question Scott back in the day was there ever the idea of acceptance like there is today, of course I know the hope was there but was there any glimmer of hope?

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    Comment by Cory Melancon — October 29, 2017 @ 12:35

    • Cory mind if I ask how old you are? In your picture of your avatar you look young. Yes in the history of our country there has been long periods of tolerance. Even in movies it was sometimes open and blatant. I am not sure when it went to people being so rabid against any thing different, so I looked it up.
      If you notice the acting effeminate for men being made a reason for discharge began in the 1920’s. However it was not until the 1941 that homosexuals were refused service. However as it is well known the military was known to turn a blind eye at times. IN fact for most of my time int he military I was open about my sexuality with few problems. In Berlin my lover and I were given a room together because we informed the top Sargent we were lovers when we arrived, he had already been informed by our prior command where we also shared a room.

      That is just the military, the general public also shows a history where it was not remarked on or cared about. I am not sure what drove the emotions of bigotry but I suspect it was due to the cold war with the soviets. They were godless heathens according to the propaganda of the US. So in the 1950’s things like under god in the pledge and in god we trust were added to the Pledge of allegiance and on money. Churches started to gain political power. and Bigotry flourished.

      I have to laugh at these current day bible trumpeters who claim that is same sex marriages are allowed God will be so angry he will strike down straight people. Or those that argue that natural disasters are because we let gay people live and have civil rights. They seem unaware that other countries in the world have had civil rights and same sex marriage for decades and they are doing great. God has not destroyed them yet. They are so small minded they can not see what is going on in the world out side of the US and they think their god cares so much for every single thing in life, but is restricted to the boarders of the USA. Silly. Did this address your question? Hugs


      Comment by Scottie — October 29, 2017 @ 12:55

      • Fantastic response, I’m going to be 30 in a few weeks, I recall seeing somewhere that the 90s were a strange time, it was the time of transition you had Hollywood ready to accept and embrace sane sex relations but it oddly enough, the person giving the interview says there was conflict within in the same sex world in itself, especially coming from the 80s and the whole aids scare and all that

        I applaud your bravery I always thought being out back then was as bad as being colored in the south was, I always hold out hope for acceptance of all as it is the foundation of what our country is built on

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        Comment by Cory Melancon — October 29, 2017 @ 13:12

        • You are correct in that it could be danger and it could get your fired also in some places and with some people. I have lost jobs, been assaulted, denied promotion, and faced other discrimination. A friend of ours was beaten to death in 2000 while walking home one night from night classes. The guys who attacked him said the had to kill him because they knew he was a queer. For me I had one Sargent try to make my life hell over my being gay, but he went too far and got himself kicked out instead. When I was in Germany in the 1980’s it was accepted as normal to be gay in their culture. Here in the states it is the influence of the fundamentalist religions that keeps the bigotry going. Take away their hateful preaching and posturing ( a lot of them get caught using gay prostitutes and such ) and any animosity would be greatly reduced to almost nothing. Fun fact you can look up, I think it was in Sparta in ancient times there was an undefeated military group much honored. To join it you had to be gay and you and your gay lover had to join together. Hugs


          Comment by Scottie — October 29, 2017 @ 13:23

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