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April 30, 2019

The Religious Hypocrisy in This Decades-Old Adoption Controversy is Appalling

This is important to read and understand what they were doing.  It is what trump does.  It is projection of their own actions on to others.   Hugs

The Religious Hypocrisy in This Decades-Old Adoption Controversy is Appalling

You’re going to want to sit down before you read this.

More than 20 years ago, there was a controversy in Indiana involving a gay man (and his partner) who wanted to adopt a family of three boys and a girl from foster care. Because the girl, Ashley, had been living without her brothers with an older Christian couple, her custody became a battle in the culture wars. You had an entire community of conservative Christians railing against the possibility of kids being placed in the home of a gay man. The Christian couple’s pastor, Brad Brizendine, wrote a nasty public letter blasting the child welfare officials for their lack of “heartfelt concern for the moral well-being of the children.” (Emphasis his.)

Ultimately, the boys were allowed to go home with the gay man, Craig Peterson.

Ashley stayed with the Christian couple, Sandy and Earl “Butch” Kimmerling.

What nobody else knew at the time was that Butch Kimmerling — who had told the media how horrible it would be for Ashley to live with gay men — was molesting Ashley.

The moral hypocrisy and sexual assault had been going on during the custody battle. The entire time Pastor Brad Brizendine was telling the world about why every child needed a mother and father, Ashley was being abused by her church-going, Bible-believing father.


  1. I hope he’s now to be arrested and charged with the crimes and that the girl is able to join her brothers. I hope Pastor Brad has the decency to apologise.

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    Comment by davidprosser — April 30, 2019 @ 09:53

    • Hello David. I followed the link to the news articles series on this. They did five stories on it from the girl first being taken from her mother to recently. The man who abused denied it right up until his trial. He then confessed and told the judge the little girl came onto him and wanted it. It turned out he did not see her as really a person and never part of the family. The man got 40 year sentence. The wife at first turned him in, but then stood by him. The congregation wrote letter to excuse him which the lawyer used to make him seem such a great person. The pastor has felt guilty and bad for his part in the little girls harm, yet others that fought to keep the gay guy from adopting said it did not matter the girl was abused by a straight older white man and still kept claiming gay men are child abusers. How the pastor dealt with the church members who were ok with the man sexually abusing a little girl I don’t know. I would have kicked them out of the church. The wife of the man who abused the girl blamed the girl for what happened and couldn’t stand the child so tried to get relatives to take her. She at first refused to allow the gay man to adopt her or even have her brothers see the girl. After about a year she called the gay guy and offered the girl to him, but she wouldn’t bring the girl to his home nor let him come to hers. She met him in a parking lot and gave him the girl and a few of her things. Everything the girl had that she loved the wife sold or threw out. She was a bitter bitch. The girl had a rough time adjusting. I did not finish the article but I hope she turned out OK. Hugs

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      Comment by Scottie — April 30, 2019 @ 10:41

      • It’s heartbreaking that this type of thing goes on. Not so much that a gay person was involved, but what the little girl went through. And stuff like this happens every single day … we just don’t hear about it.

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        Comment by Nan — April 30, 2019 @ 12:20

        • Hello Nan. Yes it seems to be a cruel world at times. I hope for a better world. Hugs


          Comment by Scottie — April 30, 2019 @ 12:32

  2. The fundies will make excuses and cover up for almost anyone as long as he belongs to their cult and hates the right people. They’ve done it for President Pussygrabber and Roy Mo[lest]ore and whole legions of sex-abusing pastors and priests. But even the most exemplary gay person is a depraved sinner because Romans and Leviticus say so.

    This is a big part of why younger Evangelicals are turning against the leadership and sometimes leaving Evangelical religion altogether (and that’s not just my opinion, there have been surveys about this). The hypocrisy their elders angrily cling to is too blatant for them.

    At lest there was some justice in this case. But it sounds like Mrs. Kimmerling treated Ashley as if the whole thing were somehow her fault — as fundies always tend to do with abuse victims.

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    Comment by Infidel753 — April 30, 2019 @ 13:04

    • Hello Infidel. Yes very true. And really depressing, all of it. Hugs


      Comment by Scottie — April 30, 2019 @ 13:09

  3. Completely agree!

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    Comment by Daddy Boy — June 2, 2019 @ 16:36

    • Hello Daddy Boy. Welcome to my Toy Box. I hope there are many posts here you will like. Hugs


      Comment by Scottie — June 2, 2019 @ 19:46

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