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November 20, 2019

New pictures of my glorious vista.πŸ™„πŸ˜‹πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Ž

Filed under: My Life and Rants, Pictures — Scottie @ 12:13

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  1. If YOU like it, that’s what counts.

    That’s all I’m going to say. 😎

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    Comment by Nan — November 20, 2019 @ 12:43

    • Hello Nan. I know you like it trimmed and you think with it longer it looks unkempt. I respect that as I respect you. Maybe you will under stand a bit if I tell you something from my past. Growing up in the dysfunctional family ( I am choosing not to use other additives ) I alone, the adopted child, had to have no hair unlike the devils spawn. My hair from my earliest memories was cut at home, I went to school with chunks cut out. It was easier for them to simply use clippers and buzz my head, but if they dropped the clippers or made a mistake that was OK, it was only me. As I became a teenager I was allowed to use a barber but at first I was accompanied to make sure I got the required buzz cut. Later I was allowed to go on my own but if I did not get the ordered close cut hair I was given a beating and other punishments. Remember this was the 1960 / 1970’s and everyone including the assholes I was raised with had long hair, even styled hair, yet I was made the outcast. I have hated short hair all my life even during my time in the service. Once when Ron was cutting my hair after we were together ( he had once owned his own hair studio ) he cut it short and I started to cry when I seen it. He has not done that again. As for the beard the important thing for me is having it even and smooth. But I do like it longer as there is a part of me that fears looking like that small smooth faced small child who was abused. The beard changes how I see my self. As soon as I had no job that required me to be clean shaven I grew my beard. During times when I was required by job requirements I shaved it off but hated how I looked. Lets move forward to the beard length. I do not like either the shadow beards sort of the 7 days growth that are popular with younger people, nor the long unkempt uneven straggling crap. I think the best beard I ever seen was the Kenny Rogers beard on his album cover.

      Nan, I do not desire to look like a homeless person or some one who doesn’t care about their appearance. Yet I feel a need to have enough growth to make the child in me feel less vulnerable and more in charge and powerful.

      Nan this is not to say you are wrong in anyway. It is hard for people to see themselves as other see them. I see my self in a way that the rest of the world doesn’t. I could very easily be wrong in how I perceive my self. I sure have seen people who I am stunned they went out in public like that. For example my eye doctor is a wonderful man. He is so nice, he took his grandchildren in and provides for them, he is just a really great guy who I trust totally. Yet he wears the most dumb wig I have ever seen. It is cut like nothing anyone has worn in this century. It is clearly a wig. He would look fine with out it. But he seems to like it, feels comfortable in it, and it is a part of him. I have been going to him since 2006 and he has always worn the same style wig. He clearly doesn’t see himself, his wig, the way the rest of us to. To Ron and I it is hideous. But to him , it makes him feel good so I have no problem with it.

      Nan I thank you for your opinion, I actually trust and enjoy it. If my beard starts to look like ZZ Top or the guy from duck dynasty I hope you will shout at me about it. I just wanted to explain why I like it a little longer. Hugs

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      Comment by Scottie — November 20, 2019 @ 13:37

      • Thanks for the background, Scottie. But again I say … if YOU like it, that’s what’s important. You look at yourself in the mirror everyday. If you don’t like what’s staring back at you, it’s natural to make changes.

        Looking at it from a slightly different perspective — many women wear waaaaay too much makeup. Why? Because in their view, it makes them look better. So we’re back to it’s what makes us feel good about ourselves.

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        Comment by Nan — November 20, 2019 @ 14:31


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