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August 13, 2019

Let’s talk about socially conditioned responses to domestic violence….

I think most of the people who come here know I was abused and lived in constant fear of the huge ( to a little boy and most men ) brute that terrorized my life.   But while I took the brunt of his abuse he also made clear his position to even his own brood.  He was the alpha in charge of the house and he would back it up with violence.  I seen him rip a door of the hinges to his daughters room because she pissed him off.  He did so by punching his fist right through the door.  

I want to point out that the video has a really good message.  If you really want to help the victim, get them out of the situation.  Many people in my little cow town knew I was being abused, and many offered what comfort they could.  But none of them tried to take me out of the abuse.  

Which leads me to the point Beau makes.  When I was about 13 or 14 I was working for a local family who had a basket weaving shop.  It was a big business.  The man who ran it was a 6 foot something ex-marine.   They were friends with my adoptive parents and had even bought me clothing when I really need it.  I was happy to work in the shop and felt welcome if  awkward there.    One afternoon my adoptive father came into the shop angry, found me and started hitting me and beating me up.  I to this day do not know how he knew or who ran and told him but Dave the owner showed up and went into combat mode.  As his wife grabbed me and tried to take me out of there I seen most of the fight.  Francis was short but stock and hugely muscled and a brawler, Dave was an marine who had seen combat and younger.  For the first time in my life I felt so happy with joy, someone had stood up for me.  I was not alone, I was going to be safe.  Surely after that fight he wouldn’t hurt me any more!

The truth was he never hurt me in front of Dave again.  But when I got home that afternoon Dave was not there.  There was no big former marine to defend me.  I was a small scrawny kid facing a brawler that had gotten the bad end of a fight.  Some one needed to pay for that, and I did.  I wont describe what happened, I think you all can guess. I will only say it was bad.  Really bad.  

Thinking you can play the hero and stand up for the abused is great, if you plan on being there day and night until the abuser is gone, never to come back.  But doing it once in a store or in the case of the video going and beating the bad guy up only leaves them free to take that anger out on the victim.  I know, I was the victim.  Anyway I am upset and tired and going to bed.  Please watch the video.  Be safe, be happy, and hugs

July 29, 2019

Gateway is abuse

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Harm, Health, Reason, Sad — Scottie @ 06:40

July 27, 2019

Child Abuse!! Call it what it is, child abuse

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July 26, 2019

Ghosts we need to hear

Filed under: Bigotry, Dealing With Abuse, Education, Harm, History, News, Political, Questions, Race, Reason, Sad — Scottie @ 06:53

spirituallyminded:

A white man and an elderly Native man became pretty good friends, so the white guy decided to ask him: “What do you think about Indian mascots?

The Native elder responded: “Here’s what you’ve got to understand.

“When you look at black people, you see ghosts of all the slavery and the rapes and the hangings and the chains. When you look at Jews, you see ghosts of all those bodies piled up in death camps. And those ghosts keep you trying to do the right thing.

“But when you look at us you don’t see the ghosts of the little babies with their heads smashed in by rifle butts at the Big Hole, or the old folks dying by the side of the trail on the way to Oklahoma while their families cried and tried to make them comfortable, or the dead mothers at Wounded Knee or the little kids at Sand Creek who were shot for target practice. You don’t see any ghosts at all. Instead you see casinos and drunks and junk cars and shacks.

“Well, we see those ghosts. And they make our hearts sad and they hurt our little children. And when we try to say something, you tell us, ‘Get over it. This is America. Look at the American dream.’ But as long as you’re calling us Redskins and doing tomahawk chops, we can’t look at the American dream, because those things remind us that we are not real human beings to you.

“And when people aren’t humans, you can turn them into slaves or kill six million of them or shoot them down with Hotchkiss guns and throw them into mass graves at Wounded Knee.

“No, we’re not looking at the American dream. And why should we? We still haven’t woken up from the American nightmare”

~ Source Unknown
(I found this on fb and sharing here)

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The American shame.

July 25, 2019

A Border Patrol Agent Reveals What It’s Really Like to Guard Migrant Children

 

July 11, 2019

Pat Benatar – Hell Is for Children – Live 2001

Filed under: Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Family, Harm, Sad, Song, Songs and Music — Scottie @ 06:16

July 2, 2019

Very troubling

 

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June 28, 2019

This needs to be more widely known.

republicansexscandals:

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Holy, repeat “holy”, crap

Did Trump, because he must brag about himself, just admit to being a pedophile?

If he admits he said it.

Guess who hired 20 year old Jeffrey Epstein, already a two-time college drop-out, to teach at NYC private school Dalton?

Answer: AG William Barr’s father, Donald Barr.

No coincidence Epstein gets lenient sentence with friends like William Barr and Alex Acosta.

Epstein was charged with recruiting dozens of girls, some as young as 13, for massages and sex at his mansion in Palm Beach, Fla. Under a plea deal reached in 2007 with then-U.S. Attorney Alex Acosta, Epstein was given immunity from federal prosecution and pleaded guilty to lesser state charges. The financier served just 13 months in county jail and was granted work release, allowing him to spend his days at his Palm Beach office. Acosta now serves as President Trump’s Labor secretary.

The Republican Swamp is massive.

June 15, 2019

Well think about it

June 14, 2019

Just take it and be grateful? No way!

Filed under: Asshole / Jerk, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, News, Questions, Religion — Scottie @ 09:13
Article: “If a pastor MOLESTS you, take it for the Team” – Nigerian Man advices
Apparently “god” is fragile and everyone should throw themselves under the bus in defence of the weak-ass, impotent Xtian god.

 

Article: “If a pastor MOLESTS you, take it for the Team” – Nigerian Man advices

Apparently “god” is fragile and everyone should throw themselves under the bus in defence of the weak-ass, impotent Xtian god

 

 

June 6, 2019

What happened to never again? A concentration camp

ms-cellanies:
“Basically they’ve been forced to live in a Concentration Camp.
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ms-cellanies:

Basically they’ve been forced to live in a Concentration Camp.

(Source: anarchist-art, via russalex)

May 16, 2019

Religious doesn’t mean good, Christian doesn’t mean moral

Pastor Who Raped Adopted 14-y.o. Daughter Gets Lenient Sentence Due to His Faith

Pastor Who Raped Adopted 14-y.o. Daughter Gets Lenient Sentence Due to His Faith

Here’s all you need to know about Pastor David Richards: He repeatedly raped his adopted daughter, starting when she was just 14 years old.

She finally told authorities when she was 16. He denied doing anything wrong, though his semen was found on her bed frame. A jury found him guilty on nine felony counts (including rape, incest, and sexual battery) earlier this year.

Richards faced the possibility of 72 years in prison.

You already know where this story is going, don’t you…?

 

Ultimately, the judge backed away from the 72 year maximum sentence he could’ve given… and settled on a mere 12.

 

It’s just another example of Christianity literally being treated as a Get Out of Jail Free card even though we’re talking about a convicted child rapist. An atheist who raped his daughter would go to jail for life, I guess, but a Christian man who sexually abuses his daughter over and over deserves some leniency because he’s really a good guy.

Amber Richards is the daughter in question, and she said in her impact statement that “Not a day goes by that I don’t, in some way, think of what he did to me. I firmly believe if given the opportunity, he would victimize another young girl.”

The judge heard that and ignored it. Then he gave David Richards the opportunity to traumatize more children in the future in part because of his dedication to Jesus.

Not Me!

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, Health, News, Political, Questions, Religion — Scottie @ 06:21

May 8, 2019

Let’s talk about the next 11-year-old girl….

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Gender, Harm, News, Political, Questions, Reason, Religion — Scottie @ 14:07

This is CC.

May 7, 2019

Gaza Crisis UPDATE

May 2, 2019

Thousands Of Immigrant Children Say They Have Been Sexually Abused While In US Custody

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Sex — Scottie @ 06:08

I am so depressed over this stuff.   Kids in cages, kids in concentration camps, kids in jails, and kids being sexually assaulted by the ones holding authority over them in government detention.   I hope everyone is as upset over all this as I am.  Hugs

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/adolfoflores/thousands-of-migrant-children-have-alleged-sexual-abuse?bfsource=relatedmanual

There have been nearly 6,000 reports of sexual abuse involving unaccompanied immigrant children while in the custody of the United States government in the last four years, according to documents made public Tuesday.

Over the past four years, 4,556 allegations of sexual abuse were reported to HHS’s Office of Refugee Resettlement (ORR), and 1,303 were made to the Justice Department, the documents show.

These HHS documents detail a staggering number of sexual assaults on unaccompanied children in their custody,” said Deutch in a statement. “Clearly this administration is not equipped to keep these children safe inside their facilities.”

The descriptions of the abuse and other information are in the article.  I am not up to reposting clips of it.  Hugs

April 29, 2019

Guy pulls girls hair then gets knocked out

Filed under: Asshole / Jerk, Dealing With Abuse, Funny Stuff, Gender, Harm, Youth — Scottie @ 16:14

April 12, 2019

How Norway designed a more humane prison

We would be wise to understand this.  Hugs

April 6, 2019

Christians demanding no mention of LGBTQ+ in Sex Ed … Because it makes god sad

It’s Even Harder Being Trans When Your School Won’t Acknowledge Your Existence

https://friendlyatheist.patheos.com/2019/04/05/its-even-harder-being-trans-when-your-school-wont-acknowledge-your-existence/

… Outraged parents started showing up at public hearings to protest, forming long lines to speak in front of the school board and sex ed advisory board. At one meeting, a parent named Sylvia Rhodea stood at the podium and said, “When you fundamentally discredit the very nature of God’s creation of our youth as male and female, you are seeking to discredit God.”

Those poor conservatives, so outnumbered in the Bible Belt. This is a prime example of that old adage: “When you’re so used to having privilege, equality can feel like oppression.”

It’s also both amusing and disturbing how they think learning about gay or trans people will make kids gay or trans. (Spoiler: That’s not how it works.) There’s nothing radical about what liberals are trying to do here.

Besides LGBTQ erasure, the current sex ed curriculum focuses only on abstinence, offering little to no education to students who are already sexually active (and no doubt plenty are). By ignoring facts and promoting faith-based ignorance, these schools are setting students up for failure, not to mention unwanted problems down the line.

April 4, 2019

We Fled the Gangs in Honduras. Then the U.S. Government Took My Baby.

 

Heart wrenching story of a family running for their lives.  Hugs

 I am an asylum seeker from Honduras and a mother of three children. For over a month my youngest daughter was separated from her father and me by the United States government. I still don’t know where she was during that time or who took care of her.

She’s a toddler, so she can’t tell me if something bad happened to her. I don’t know if she thinks we chose to abandon her. All I know is she came back pounds thinner, with lice and a hacking cough, and she cried for days, traumatized by a government that keeps children from their parents because they are migrants.

While we waited for the train in Puebla, Mexican immigration agents showed up and beat people and threw them in vans. In the chaos, I grabbed my two older children and hid in the nearby bushes. Kevin, who was carrying Grethshell in a sling, took off in a different direction. That was the last time I saw them together.

We arrived at the border at Calexico, Calif., on Dec. 31. Despite appealing for help, I was turned away by the Border Patrol agents. Desperate to reunite our family, I found us a way across in the early morning hours of Jan. 1.

We were caught by agents after we crossed and taken to one of the detention centers known as “hieleras,” or iceboxes, because they are kept so cold. There I learned that Kevin was taken to the same detention center with Grethshell and she had been separated from her father. Two fellow migrant women told me that five agents held him down while they ripped her from his arms. Other migrant women were asked to watch her.

I was told I would be reunited with my daughter in a week, but first I needed to fill out paperwork. Then I was told to provide a credit card with up to a $4,000 credit line for her flight, an impossibility for me. Officials refused to say who was looking after her. Finally I got fed up and went to the press. Grethshell was finally put on a plane and brought to me after I threatened to go to the address I had for the shelter manager and get her myself.

When a social worker put my daughter in my arms on Jan. 30, she was inconsolable. My whole body shook as I held her and tried to soothe her, telling her that everything would be O.K. She was so sick I had to take her to the doctor the next day. For three weeks she resisted me, fearful, when I tried to hold her. She still cries out for her father at night.

When I asked to be let into this country because my family was in mortal danger, a Border Patrol agent told me I was weak. That it would be better if I went to Canada. “I don’t care if one of your kids dies,” he said. I wonder what that agent would have done if someone had threatened to murder his children. Wouldn’t he have risked everything to ensure their safety?

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