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April 3, 2020

‘Lean On Me,’ singer Bill Withers dies at 81 has died from heart complications

This song along with a few others such as bridge over troubled waters got me through a summer of nearly daily beatings.   Rest In Peace Bill Withers.  Thank you for the comfort in my time of need.   Hugs

Well said, people need to understand this

March 25, 2020

Gordon Lightfoot – The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald

My favorite song by him.  It sent chils up my spine when I first heard it.  It scared the poop out of me when I was in the Navy.  It made me feel adventurous in the Army.  Now in my older age it makes me feel discouraged and like I am fighting a future I can not change, one too powerful to stop, yet I must not give in until it takes me down.   Hugs.

March 15, 2020

A reminder

Filed under: Cartoons, Dealing With Abuse, Gender, Memes, News, Political, Questions, Reason, Sex — Scottie @ 10:25

March 5, 2020

Christian Mother Tries Defending Her Guide to Hitting Kids: “It Has to Hurt”

*** Warning this is both triggering and upsetting.  If you have been a victim of abuse please make sure you are in a safe space before reading even this post, much less the stuff at the link.   I had to go run to the bathroom and vomit before I could even post this.   I am going to post this and then get off the computer for a while.   Be safe, hugs ***

This is incredibly upsetting for me.   I am going to quote the author’s summations but I will not be quoting the actual abuse used and the push on the part of the Christian mother for harming  children.   This is abuse to spank a child on and off for four hours.   This is not discipline it is a deliberate attempt to break a child to cause them to fear not pleasing those in power.   It is trying to insure they will always do what church leaders demand or they know they will be punished.   It is brainwashing.   Studies have shown that hitting a child doesn’t teach them anything except might rules and if they want something they only need to hit others to get it.   The stronger person is always right and gets to force the weaker person to do what the stronger person wants them too.  It is grooming techniques.   Someone really needs to push back hard on this but it won’t be me.   I am already far too upset to deal with this sanely.   Now I need to finish this and then try to calm down.  Hugs

Christian Mother Tries Defending Her Guide to Hitting Kids: “It Has to Hurt”

Christian blogger Lori Alexander has a long history of saying the worst possible thing in every situation, but this week, a few screenshots began circulating of comments she made several months ago in which she describes smacking her children.

She seems to delight in telling other mothers how and how long to hit their kids.

In one case, she talks about hitting her kid for four straight hours. (In that screenshot, I’m assuming she means “spank” instead of “spark.”)

In another, she says “it has to hurt” or else they won’t learn their lesson.

In yet another, she claims to use a “foot-long strap.”

It’s “abuse.”

It’s the sort of “train up a child” thinking that’s popular in fundamentalist Christian circles. The idea is that your children must fear you in order to grow up healthy, therefore hitting them (no matter how delicately that’s described) is the best parenting tool available. But realize these are people who grew up to believe hitting their kids is okay. They’re deranged. They’re living proof of how that method fails.

All of that is the same justification you’ll hear from men who abuse their wives. They’re not abusive. They just wanted to fix a problem. They love their partner…

Of course we never hear from the children themselves in this video. Only the abuser. But even if the children say they’re fine, it wouldn’t justify the method. Hitting your kids is abuse. In this case, Alexander uses Christianity to defend her cruelty. And if your religion can provide a cover for violence, then your religion is part of the problem.

 

 

February 7, 2020

Video Shows Controversial Use Of Force Inside An ICE Detention Center

This is beyond being a national disgrace and an indictment against the US and the people doing this to these immigrants.   Remember these people are not criminals, they are asylum seekers which is legal under US and international laws.   At most crossing the border illegally is a misdemeanor level crime.  The guards are clearly treating these people like hardened violent criminals and they lied about what they did even though there was video they knew about.  That shows they are aware their actions were wrong, they are racists, and they figured their bosses would be OK with their actions.  They were correct.    I am so angry I can hardly type.   This is the country we have become!   This is how we will be remembered.   For everyone who claims we are not on the same road as fascist Germany in the late 1930’s think about the progression.  We have gotten use to the idea of concentration camps for the brown people.   We have gotten use to separating brown children from brown parents, some sold by white christian groups to white people.    We have become use to hateful bigotry and abuse of those who are not-white heterosexual males.    We have become use to a president who is a criminal using his office to reward himself and his henchmen who prevent any accountability happening to him.  We have become OK with massive force used on people unable to fight back.   We have become use to armed white people in the streets.  We have become use to an authoritarian militarized police force with almost unlimited powers to stop and question anyone because they want to.   What have become use to a police state mentality where the police can detain a person and make them miserable without charging them with a crime and then claim suspicion.  We have become use to the unlawful detentions of US citizens returning to the country by ICE and the interrogations of them about their support for current administration, the seizing to copy while examine their phones and devices,  all without a warrant or legal right to do so.    We have become use to guilt by association and job function for defending immigrants or the vulnerable.  We have become use to ICE breaking the laws claiming to be police officers and trying to snatch suspected illegal immigrants off the streets, out of their cars, and from their homes in some cases leaving little children alone without care or supervision.    We have become use to the changing of known history to fit the narrative of a minority group ruling our country.  We have become use to the enforced observance of rituals of patriotism and religion demanded by government and religious leaders.  We have accepted “in god we trust” being posted in schools, religious objects of one religion only in public spaces and government buildings, the demand by the fascist armed minority to both pledge allegiance to the country ( meaning their dear leader and their views only ) and then their Christian god in prayers.    This is the country we have become and it is getting worse.   We had better take it back this election or history has shown what comes next.    Sad worried angry hugs.   

When detainees arrive at the facility, they’re given a handbook that states explicitly, “Detention is NOT prison.” Immigration detention is where the government holds people while deciding whether to deport them, and most detainees have no criminal record. But this group said the conditions felt like those of a penitentiary.

Surveillance footage obtained by NPR shows what happened next.

Detention officers spent several minutes speaking to the detainees, telling them to return to their bunks. They waived a canister of pepper spray in front of them, then attempted to physically move the detainees.

The video shows the detainees trying to remain seated with their arms linked. But detention officers would later claim they were inciting a “rebellion” and “assaulting” staff.

Detention officers then sprayed pepper spray at the men at least three times and forcibly removed them from the tables.

As they visibly recoiled from the spray, some of the detainees were pushed into walls, pulled to the ground or dragged on the floor by guards.

Afterward, though not seen on camera, five of the detainees were placed in hot showers. Hot water, however, can worsen the painful burning effect from pepper spray, something an internal oversight office at the Department of Homeland Security noted in a review of the incident.

“I couldn’t take it,” Isaac Antonio Lopez Castillo, one of the detainees, later testified in a deposition. “I was even throwing up from the pepper gas.”

All eight detainees were then sent to “segregation” — ICE’s term for solitary confinement — for 10 days for “engaging in or inciting a group demonstration.”

As NPR reported in January, a previously confidential government inspection found that the facility was failing to meet many of the government’s own standards for solitary confinement, mental health treatment and medical care. The report also found that staff at Adelanto had retaliated against detainees.

Immigration attorneys and advocates say the conditions at Adelanto are emblematic of problems throughout an immigration detention system that has come to increasingly rely on firms like GEO to help enforce the Trump administration’s hard-line immigration policy.

However, the inspector faulted Adelanto for failing to provide cold water when it came time to clean the spray off the detainees, writing that “warm water will exacerbate the burning effect of the OC pepper spray.”

“Our clients fled violence and persecution in their home countries, believing they would find safety and security in the United States,” said attorney Rachel Steinback in a statement. “Instead, they were subjected to inhumane treatment at Adelanto — and were violently punished for daring to complain.”

The detainees’ attorneys cited GEO’s own use-of-force policy, which considers pepper spray a “major use of force.” According to the policy, officers can only use “major” force when, “Imminent and immediate danger to employees, inmates, or other persons exist.”

“We just wanted to speak and we wanted to be heard,” said one of the strikers, Julio Cesar Barahona Cornejo. “At no time did I raise my hands to try to hit them or anything.”

Their actions, they say, were met with hostility, then physical force, then pepper spray.

According to the lawsuit, one of the detainees broke his nose and had his tooth knocked out after he was pushed into a wall. GEO’s attorneys say it is “uncertain” whether the detainee’s nose was broken during the incident, because he didn’t report it to a doctor that day.

“What they did to us, you don’t even do that to an animal,” said another detainee, Josue Vladimir Cortez Diaz.

In his deposition, Lopez Castillo said he had sought asylum in the U.S. to escape violence from gangs and police in El Salvador. But after his experience in immigration detention, he said he changed his mind about America.

“Not even in my country was I treated as bad as they treated me in the United States,” said Lopez Castillo.

“They treated me worse than trash when all I was trying to do was start a life.”

There is a lot more at the link above including many sick harassing demeaning threatening practices used against the immigrants the government claim are not in jail, but are being treated like hardened criminals by racist guards.   Hugs

February 4, 2020

A war crime and a travesty

Filed under: Cartoons, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Memes, News, Political, Questions, Reason — Scottie @ 04:16

January 14, 2020

Pain

Filed under: Dealing With Abuse, My Life and Rants — Scottie @ 16:52

A quick note.  Sorry I am late getting to everyone and have not gotten to other blogs.  The pain in my spine / back is making it hard to even breath.  Damn I am in pain and I have taken all the pain medications I have.  My next visit to my pain doctor I am going to have to ask them to put me back on Morphine or something.  My attempt to be “manly” and take the pain is not working and not worth it.  I am having not only more pain but having to keep going to lay down to try to ease my spine.  I am not complaining it is my own fault, I get thinking I am better ( because my pain can decrease or increase with out reason ) and I ask to be taken off my stronger pain medications.  Well the strong ones do have a negative impact on the body, which I do not need really, plus I worry about addiction.   My pain doctors love when I do that as it shows I am aware of my situation, but then it gets overwhelming again.  In this much pain it is hard to concentrate, hard to focus.  I miss details and often just stop and get up to try to get relief.  Keeping a thread of things hard.  I want to scream.  I have been trying to answer comments for a while and it is hard.    

OK thank you for letting me vent.  Forget this post, as I am not asking for sympathy , just letting you know what I am dealing with.  I have to remember there are people who are a lot worse off than I, people who are homeless, who have no food, who are being harmed daily.  

You know it is an indoctrination from my childhood that men took pain, men did not cry, boy’s raped did not tell, the bruises were badges of honor.  It has created the problem I am in now.  I try to force my self off pain medications I need.   My medical history is clear, my bones are badly damaged and my muscles are also.  I am tired today, tired of tRump, tired of my pain, tired of being worried about bills and money, tired of worrying about the future for both my country and my own family.  

Yet on the other hand what keeps me going along with life is my husband and my cats and also this blog.   I interact with so many interesting people.  The internet allows me to learn other views, educate myself, and to read such wonderful blogs.  I get exposed to so many different views.   

So please excuse my momentary weakness.  I took more medications and they are kicking in.  I am sorry to have unloaded this on you.  But as with my abuse writing about it, sharing it , helps in some weird way I have yet to understand.  I was taught to hide all of it,  yet at times I write it out and I feel better?   I should ask Dwain  ( professor Taboo about that ) OK my pain is getting better and my mind clearer so off I go back to my comments.  Thanks to those still reading.  Hugs

 

January 1, 2020

If white people faced …

December 16, 2019

This hurts to report, so I will post the links and and the titles.

Filed under: Asshole / Jerk, Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Education, Harm, News — Scottie @ 19:12

*** triggering****   this is about a child being physically abused in a public school by a large adult.  

NC Deputy Fired For Body-Slamming Child [VIDEO]

NC Deputy Fired For Body-Slamming Child [VIDEO]

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‘No justification:’ North Carolina sheriff’s deputy fired after caught on video body-slamming child

https://abcnews.go.com/US/justification-north-carolina-sheriffs-deputy-fired-caught-video/story?id=67754371

A sheriff’s deputy caught on security video twice body-slamming a child under the age of 12 at a North Carolina middle school was fired on Monday morning and state investigators are deciding whether to file criminal charges against him, officials said.

In the school surveillance video, the deputy, a school resource officer, is seen walking with the child down a hallway when suddenly he lunges at the boy, lifts him off the ground and slams him to the floor on his back. Without checking the child for injuries, the deputy picks the student up again and throws him to the floor a second time and drags him down the hall and out of the view of the camera, according to the footage.

Sorry I was not going to post this, I simply did not want to see it nor deal with it.  But having seen it , I can not forget or get it out of my mind.  The vortex is howling at my right ear, I have chills up my back , my muscles are clenched, I am struggling.   I once was that child thrown around by a bigger adult I had no chance of protecting my self from.  He could lash out at any moment and how does a 50 pound kid take on a 250 pound brawler.  I need to go.  Hugs

December 12, 2019

Federal Authorities Arrest Doctors Campaigning to Give Migrants Free Flu Vaccinations

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Health, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 07:46

https://www.newsweek.com/doctors-arrested-protest-border-patrol-flu-vaccines-detained-migrants-1476691

“We are licensed medical doctors and practitioners with decades of experience. The Trump administration has left us with no choice but to show up at the San Diego Border Patrol Headquarters and beg to provide life-saving medical care for these children,” the group said. “We have already written to immigration officials and tried to set up meetings with them as well—but they are ignoring us and children’s lives are at risk as a result. We will not stand down.”

For weeks, doctors have been campaigning to be allowed to provide detained migrants with free flu shots. With flu season getting off to an early start this year, they have sought to ramp up calls for the U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP) agency, which oversees the Border Patrol, to take action.

In an interview with Newsweek on Tuesday ahead of the day’s protest and subsequent arrests, Dr. Marie DeLuca, an emergency physician from New York City and one of the founders of Doctors for Camp Closure, said physicians felt it was their duty to stop people from “needlessly suffering and dying.”

In the last fiscal year, at least three children, ages 2, 6 and 16, died of influenza while in federal custody, with it recently being revealed that 16-year-old Carlos Gregorio Hernandez Vasquez had been left lying on the floor in a holding cell for hours after falling sick before he was found dead.

More at the link above.  How can hatred run so deep over skin color and place of birth?  Where you are born is not an achievement, you did not do anything to earn it.   Hugs

December 3, 2019

Too much touch.

Filed under: Dealing With Abuse, My Life and Rants — Scottie @ 19:13

Last week a man who lives in our park stopped at my house to ask if I would help his wife with some computer problems.   The man is 84 years old.   While asking me this he repeatedly took my hand, he gets way to close and them pats my shoulder.  He is totally clueless to my discomfort and the fact I am on my top step pressed against the door to my office.   The abused child in me is melting down in sobs and screams.   I tell him I will call his wife after the weekend.   He leaves.  He is just like Joe Biden acts with people only worse.  It is horribly creepy.  It gets worse. 

Today at 10 AM I arrive at their place in the park, he is out front by the door.  He grabs my hand, pulls me in to him, doesn’t let go, keeps talking, getting closer.  I want to wrench my hand away I want to step back.   He grabs my arm telling me how glad he is I am helping his wife.  I am about to scream or run.  I control my self, disentangle my self and tell him I must see what I can do for his wife with out delay.   I am angry now, he is creepy and I do not want him around me.  I try to force a good humor when meeting his wife, but memories are hammering at my mind. 

Their small desk is in the narrowest spot in the home, with just enough room for the over large printer and a laptop, the mouse and pad is on the very edge of the desk in front of the laptop, she laughs they need a bigger desk.  I suggest as the printer is wireless they simply move it to another location, she doesn’t understand.  It works good where it is she replies.  They have always had it there.  She doesn’t understand what it being wireless means. 

So I pull up a chair as there is none at the desk as she uses a scooter in the home.  The place the desk is in with me in a chair pulled close to the desk there is about 8 inches from the wall behind us.   She drives the scooter in until the front wheel touches my leg, I try to pull back even though it causes my leg to start to go numb. 

I start fixing her problem which involves like it does most of the people who contact me with a password error.  She has like most of the people I deal with a stack of post it notes with different words and things scrawled on them with no dates.  Try this , no , try that one.  I have learned that after two attempts to simply insist on changing the password using the forgot password.   Despite my asking her to write it all down  including the date, a new post it note is now scratched on with no date or identifying marks.  Oh it is OK she says I will know what it goes to.   Fuck me!  I can see another house call coming. 

He comes in the door next to me, he has to change and go out.  Grabs my arm as I am moving the mouse, moves beside me and puts both hands on my shoulders.  I am about to explode.  I shift trying to get him to take his hands off me.   I remind my self I am a bearded 56 year old man not a small boy, I still need him to back off.  I turn causing him to lose his grip and pushing me into her scooter.    I tell him I have lots of stuff yet to do.  He says he needs me to come over and explain to him how to turn the computer on.  He has to learn to use it.  Did I mention he is 84?  I am sweating now, and my heart is racing, but I must focus my mind, I am here to solve her computer problems most of which I have already done.  He leaves.  

I explain to her that they get a free antivirus / firewall with their internet subscription.  They did not know, and no they do not have any protection.  Damn.  It is so hot in the house because as she says she can not take the cold.  I am sweating.  I explain antivirus / firewall and why it is important.  She says if it is free get it.  I explain again it is part of her subscription, she doesn’t care.   To her it is free. 

She has not done any updates since they got the laptop a year ago, I start them and explain to her how to do them and why.  Another post it note. 

I install the Norton protection on the computer and am doing the updates, almost all is done.  He comes back.  Starts touching me again.  Starts at the arm and moves up.  I have had it.  I explain I have to go.  I interrupt him, tell him I need to stand up please move back.  I ask her to move her scooter.  I put the chair back where it was before, I tell them I simply have to go they can call me.  He says he will stop by the house if he has questions.  I do not say I will answer the door.   Neither of them seem to register how angry I am inside , how I have reached very angry upset stage and will not stay there any longer.  She offers me money and I do not even count it, just tell her it is fine, thank you.  But she wants to talk about the money.   I explain that I do this for donations, there is no set charge, give what she thinks she can afford and what it was worth, anything is OK , nothing is also OK.  She wants to talk guilt.   The boy in me is in tears and shredded, he needs to get out of there , he needs to go home to comfort and safety.  I am trying hard to keep the outer face calm and professional.   She doesn’t get it and wants to talk about her guilt about not seeming to pay me enough, she may need to call me again.  Not seeming to remember I have helped her on and off for about at least 10 years.     I explain again I do not charge, I work by donation.  I do not want anyone to feel they can not ask for my help due to their financial situation, if they can not pay I still help, I do not gossip, I do not judge.  I want to make sure those that need computer help get it and if they can give something to me that is nice, but not expected.    She starts to tell me how hard things are for her children.  

There is no reason for this.  She already had the money set aside, I had already seen it.  I do not care at this point, three hour of my life have past in a hot closed in space with a man who keeps touching me which I really do not want.  I told Ron if he had gotten any further I was going to demand he at least buy me fucking dinner. 

She has given me the money, the questions have been answered, he has gone some where, but before I can leave she now wants to talk.   I explain I really have to go, we can make another appointment and she can call me with any questions.    Great, talk later, got to go. 

Get home, blood pressure really high, pulse 124, emotion level high, pain levels high.   I checked both when I got inside.   Get a drink, sit in my office chair, the cats run to me as I have been gone, start to relax, start to comfort the panicked screaming boy inside me, telling my self all is OK.   She called. 

The computer screen shows this .  Yes, normal, just hit this, no close out that , OK accept this.  OK yes that.  Can she call me again to come over?   I guess if you need me but remember I can answer a lot of stuff over the phone.   Yes but it is easier when you are here and he wants you to start teaching him how to use a computer.   I tell her  I have to go.

When I got Ron up I told him about this.  He doesn’t think I should help them.  I told him if I do not help them I must not help anyone.  He reminded me I do not owe it to anyone to help them, I do not have to.   I do not feel that way.   I have a skill, knowledge gained over years.  I also have patience to deal with wilful ignorance.  I just do not, can not stand to be touched and petted while helping.  

This another reason Biden can not be the democratic nominee.   Man his age and mind set just don’t get it.  He doesn’t have the right to touch others, pet them, paw them, in Biden’s case sniff their hair .  It is not normal.  It is not wanted.   Hey consent anyone! 

Well thank you wonderful Toy Box viewers for letting me get that off my chest.  My heart rate has still not settled down even though I had a wonderful call from an internet friend.  It is possible the man never meant any harm, it is just his normal way.  His way of being friendly.  But my past did not agree, to me he was a predator acting creepy.   I hate to think of how he acts with  his great grand children.  Oh well, another day in a Florida trailer park in the life of Scottie.    Hugs

 

December 2, 2019

The vortex rages

Filed under: Dealing With Abuse, My Life and Rants, Reason — Scottie @ 13:48

It has been a rough couple days, maybe more I am starting to lose track of time.   The vortex is trying hard to ensnare my mind.   I am fighting hard, with everything I have but I am losing this time.  Most times I win, I know what is happening, I can keep the vortex just on the fringe .   But it got past my defenses and now I must fight it already storming inside the barriers. 

I developed the analogy of a vortex, sort of an upside down tornado when I had to describe to people what happens to my mind and emotions when the memories surface and become overwhelming.   The storms always batters against my mind, the storm rages at different levels but when it becomes a vortex it is gone from being a constant thing, a reminder of days long gone, but a sucking monster trying to draw me into a mentally repeating pattern of memories I can not escape from.  The memories play over and over, drawing me deeper and deeper into the emotions.   It causes the emotions to open and become raw, making it seem like it is happening now, again, always. 

For the longest time my only defense against the vortex was to become super focused .  I organized everything, when Ron moved in he was amazed at my home, everything had a place and was never out of place.  I even had my clothing in my dressers and closet organized.   I not only organized by item, use , but also by length, even color.   Files were cross referenced in my file cabinet and I was meticulous about saving and filing everything.  Basically my way of dealing was to control as tightly as I could everything in my control.  To lock my emotions down as tight as possible.   I have described my memories and emotions as something I place in a chest, wrapped in the strongest chains locked with the strongest locks and thrown in the the deepest parts of the oceans.   The thing is that works for a while, it really does, but some how those demons find ways out, it seems to be their job.

Sadly life is not really controllable and especially when others are involved.   The world doesn’t like control and other people do not fit into nice boxes and lines.  Life is messy and chaotic.   In 1990 to other it seemed I had it all , a great job making a lot of money, a new home, new motorcycle, new truck, all the toys.   I was barely hanging on emotionally.  I was a living time bomb about to self destruct. 

Then something happened that changed my life and saved me as best as it can be saved.   I met Ron.  I have told the story before, it was unexpected and completely shouldn’t have happened but it did.   The thing is our relationship, his love, his ways gave me the handles to hold onto when the vortex came.  Instead of falling hard into it, I now had something to hold on to , to fight back.  

So I have handles, I have supports to use to fight the vortex.   Sometimes it keeps me from it entirely and it only howls at the edges of my mind, other times the handles slow my decent and give me the way to claw my way back out of the deep dark depths.   The last few days have been bad for me. 

For a while I have avoided leaving the house, taking my comfort and strength from my familiar surrounding and my two cats that want to be with me most of the time.   I have to be careful about that as I could easily become a hermit.  It is comforting to me to be in my place where I have complete control.   But I have needed new shoes for a while, and I decided to force my self out to buy them.  Ron seemed to know how it was for me as he out of the blue decided he would come with me, “But your driving” he said.   Side note, I do most of the driving as I have driven everything from double wagon tractors to semi trucks and it is just something I do well.  Ron prefers me to drive and it seems to feel right to me. 

The reason this is worth mentioning is I have a hard time find shoes that feel OK on my feet and Ron really doesn’t care to be with me as it takes time and he has described it as “Screeching fingers on a chalk board”.  But today he wanted to go, so we went in the early morning as he has to work tonight.   So I have new sneakers. 

Wow I really went on a rant here.  But I already feel better, my mind clearer and my emotions calmer.   I have my ITunes music playing in the back ground and I can feel my perceptions are much sharper, which is good because I have not even begun to get to comments and I simply gave up this morning trying to blog news.  I think I can do it now and bring my A game to the stage. 

Ok grand people, pull up a bit of that internet while we still have it, and lets talk.   Scotties coming back.   Hugs

Where Do The Children Play?

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Family, Harm, My Life and Rants, Questions, Song — Scottie @ 12:49

It is a bad day

When the Children Cry

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Family, Harm, My Life and Rants, Sex, Song — Scottie @ 12:38

A bad day

December 1, 2019

Wisconsin Church Hosts Thanksgiving for LGBTQ People Rejected By Their Families

Wisconsin Church Hosts Thanksgiving for LGBTQ People Rejected By Their Families

 

It’s a reminder that a family you choose is no less important than the one you’re given, and that churches can indeed play a role in promoting love and inclusivity instead of being a force for divisiveness.

 

“Having someone not accept you is really hard but when it’s someone as close with your family it’s much harder,” added Yellow Brick Road leader Marilyn Schuh.

We all deserve a place at a Thanksgiving table where we feel loved and accepted. Thanksgiving is about coming together and giving thanks for those people we love in our life. We couldn’t think of anyone else we would rather spend this day with than you!” reads the event’s description on Facebook.

As The Advocate notes, these kinds of events can’t be under-appreciated:

Events like these can help LGBTQ people feel connected and supported in the face of ostracism. In a 2013 Pew survey, about four in ten LGBTQ people reported being rejected by a friend or family member. LGBTQ youth are at a much higher risk of becoming homeless.

Having a community like this goes a long way to minimizing those risks.

November 26, 2019

Damaged People

Filed under: Cartoons, Dealing With Abuse, Memes, Questions — Scottie @ 07:17

November 23, 2019

Quiet Rooms: Illinois schools lead the nation in imprisoning very young, disabled children in isolation chambers

Filed under: Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Education, News, Political, Questions — Scottie @ 14:15

Damn this is institutionalized abuse of children by schools.   This is unbearable.  These are kids. 

*** Sorry I forgot to add the link to the site I was so upset when I read this.   The boy nude crying for his clothes brought back really bad memories.   Thanks to Nan for catching the missing link.    Hugs ***

Quiet Rooms: Illinois schools lead the nation in imprisoning very young, disabled children in isolation chambers

 

The logs reveal children who have lost control of their bladders and/or bowels, sometimes undressed, sitting in filth, urine and feces, begging for their release. Some of these children were incarcerated for ten hours — from their arrival at school until their pickup — only to be re-incarcerated on their return the next morning.

The reasons given for incarcerating children include speaking in a disrepectful tone, failing to complete classwork, attempting to “provoke” other students, and other issues that have no nexus with safety. Some of the cells used are padded; others are bare wood and steel. A typical cell measures 6×8′.

Some schools seem entirely reliant on the isolation cells: Bridges Learning Center near Centralia has five isolation cells that are sometimes full by 8:35AM. Though the school only has 65 students, they imprisoned students in isolation cells 1,288 times during the 15 months covered by the records.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Jim Nelson has run the North DuPage Special Education Cooperative since July 2016, where he has removed the doors from the isolation cells and filled them with “a lava lamp, fuzzy pillows, a beanbag and puzzles.” Students decide for themselves when to go into it, “when they need a break.”

Quiet Rooms: Illinois schools lead the nation in imprisoning very young, disabled children in isolation chambers

Filed under: Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Education, News, Political, Questions — Scottie @ 05:37

Damn this is institutionalized abuse of children by schools.   This is unbearable.  These are kids. 

*** Sorry I forgot to add the link to the site I was so upset when I read this.   The boy nude crying for his clothes brought back really bad memories.   Thanks to Nan for catching the missing link.    Hugs ***

https://boingboing.net/2019/11/19/quiet-rooms.html

 

The logs reveal children who have lost control of their bladders and/or bowels, sometimes undressed, sitting in filth, urine and feces, begging for their release. Some of these children were incarcerated for ten hours — from their arrival at school until their pickup — only to be re-incarcerated on their return the next morning.

The reasons given for incarcerating children include speaking in a disrepectful tone, failing to complete classwork, attempting to “provoke” other students, and other issues that have no nexus with safety. Some of the cells used are padded; others are bare wood and steel. A typical cell measures 6×8′.

Some schools seem entirely reliant on the isolation cells: Bridges Learning Center near Centralia has five isolation cells that are sometimes full by 8:35AM. Though the school only has 65 students, they imprisoned students in isolation cells 1,288 times during the 15 months covered by the records.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Jim Nelson has run the North DuPage Special Education Cooperative since July 2016, where he has removed the doors from the isolation cells and filled them with “a lava lamp, fuzzy pillows, a beanbag and puzzles.” Students decide for themselves when to go into it, “when they need a break.”

November 22, 2019

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I have posted this before but today I need to do so again.   Sorry.  Hugs

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