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May 16, 2019

Not Me!

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, Health, News, Political, Questions, Religion — Scottie @ 06:21

May 8, 2019

Let’s talk about the next 11-year-old girl….

Filed under: Children, Dealing With Abuse, Gender, Harm, News, Political, Questions, Reason, Religion — Scottie @ 14:07

This is CC.

May 7, 2019

Gaza Crisis UPDATE

May 2, 2019

Thousands Of Immigrant Children Say They Have Been Sexually Abused While In US Custody

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Sex — Scottie @ 06:08

I am so depressed over this stuff.   Kids in cages, kids in concentration camps, kids in jails, and kids being sexually assaulted by the ones holding authority over them in government detention.   I hope everyone is as upset over all this as I am.  Hugs

There have been nearly 6,000 reports of sexual abuse involving unaccompanied immigrant children while in the custody of the United States government in the last four years, according to documents made public Tuesday.

Over the past four years, 4,556 allegations of sexual abuse were reported to HHS’s Office of Refugee Resettlement (ORR), and 1,303 were made to the Justice Department, the documents show.

These HHS documents detail a staggering number of sexual assaults on unaccompanied children in their custody,” said Deutch in a statement. “Clearly this administration is not equipped to keep these children safe inside their facilities.”

The descriptions of the abuse and other information are in the article.  I am not up to reposting clips of it.  Hugs

April 29, 2019

Guy pulls girls hair then gets knocked out

Filed under: Asshole / Jerk, Dealing With Abuse, Funny Stuff, Gender, Harm, Youth — Scottie @ 16:14

April 12, 2019

How Norway designed a more humane prison

We would be wise to understand this.  Hugs

April 6, 2019

Christians demanding no mention of LGBTQ+ in Sex Ed … Because it makes god sad

It’s Even Harder Being Trans When Your School Won’t Acknowledge Your Existence

… Outraged parents started showing up at public hearings to protest, forming long lines to speak in front of the school board and sex ed advisory board. At one meeting, a parent named Sylvia Rhodea stood at the podium and said, “When you fundamentally discredit the very nature of God’s creation of our youth as male and female, you are seeking to discredit God.”

Those poor conservatives, so outnumbered in the Bible Belt. This is a prime example of that old adage: “When you’re so used to having privilege, equality can feel like oppression.”

It’s also both amusing and disturbing how they think learning about gay or trans people will make kids gay or trans. (Spoiler: That’s not how it works.) There’s nothing radical about what liberals are trying to do here.

Besides LGBTQ erasure, the current sex ed curriculum focuses only on abstinence, offering little to no education to students who are already sexually active (and no doubt plenty are). By ignoring facts and promoting faith-based ignorance, these schools are setting students up for failure, not to mention unwanted problems down the line.

April 4, 2019

We Fled the Gangs in Honduras. Then the U.S. Government Took My Baby.


Heart wrenching story of a family running for their lives.  Hugs

 I am an asylum seeker from Honduras and a mother of three children. For over a month my youngest daughter was separated from her father and me by the United States government. I still don’t know where she was during that time or who took care of her.

She’s a toddler, so she can’t tell me if something bad happened to her. I don’t know if she thinks we chose to abandon her. All I know is she came back pounds thinner, with lice and a hacking cough, and she cried for days, traumatized by a government that keeps children from their parents because they are migrants.

While we waited for the train in Puebla, Mexican immigration agents showed up and beat people and threw them in vans. In the chaos, I grabbed my two older children and hid in the nearby bushes. Kevin, who was carrying Grethshell in a sling, took off in a different direction. That was the last time I saw them together.

We arrived at the border at Calexico, Calif., on Dec. 31. Despite appealing for help, I was turned away by the Border Patrol agents. Desperate to reunite our family, I found us a way across in the early morning hours of Jan. 1.

We were caught by agents after we crossed and taken to one of the detention centers known as “hieleras,” or iceboxes, because they are kept so cold. There I learned that Kevin was taken to the same detention center with Grethshell and she had been separated from her father. Two fellow migrant women told me that five agents held him down while they ripped her from his arms. Other migrant women were asked to watch her.

I was told I would be reunited with my daughter in a week, but first I needed to fill out paperwork. Then I was told to provide a credit card with up to a $4,000 credit line for her flight, an impossibility for me. Officials refused to say who was looking after her. Finally I got fed up and went to the press. Grethshell was finally put on a plane and brought to me after I threatened to go to the address I had for the shelter manager and get her myself.

When a social worker put my daughter in my arms on Jan. 30, she was inconsolable. My whole body shook as I held her and tried to soothe her, telling her that everything would be O.K. She was so sick I had to take her to the doctor the next day. For three weeks she resisted me, fearful, when I tried to hold her. She still cries out for her father at night.

When I asked to be let into this country because my family was in mortal danger, a Border Patrol agent told me I was weak. That it would be better if I went to Canada. “I don’t care if one of your kids dies,” he said. I wonder what that agent would have done if someone had threatened to murder his children. Wouldn’t he have risked everything to ensure their safety?

April 3, 2019

I should go to bed

Filed under: Dealing With Abuse, My Life and Rants — Scottie @ 20:40

I should go to bed, but I am afraid to.   I have to get up in the morning and go for my shots.  I do not want to go to bed, the bad memories are there.  I need a vodka, or maybe two.  But tomorrow I have my shots.  I am tired.   Hugs

**trigger warning ** this post is an attempt to help me deal with my own feelings.

Filed under: Dealing With Abuse, My Life and Rants — Scottie @ 20:20

I am pretty upset right now so if this is disjointed or the grammar is not correct, take that into account.  If it is the only thing you get from this post, then fuck off. 

Today I spent over three hours at one of my doctors.  I found out I am going to need a procedure that is going to stick needles in at least 6 and maybe 8 of my vertebra, a procedure I have had in the past which was very painful.  So painful the last time I had it done my heart stopped.  But this time they are not going to inject anything, they are going to “burn out the nerves”.  

I came home after going to the grocery store to get some soda and lucky for me Ron was up ( he had worked last night and was to be sleeping but woke up and realized I wasn’t home and got worried ).  So he carried the stuff in to the house as by them I could barely walk.  

I rested and for Ron’s dinner when he woke up at 5 to get ready for work I had peeled some potatoes, sliced them up, got the deep fryer ready ( we fry a lot so we have a really good deep fryer ) and then started on prepping the grilled cheese sandwiches I made for his supper.   I was over joyed when he was so happy he took two more grilled cheese sandwiches and a heaping dish of my deep fried potatoes to work with him.  After he left I started to do dishes even though he thought I should leave them for him when he got home.  

*** Trigger warnings Maybe.  If you are not able to handle sexual abuse of minors please stop reading here.  ***

After Ron left I decided to do the dishes anyway, yes I am not one to take orders well.  So as I was doing the normal things one does washing dishes into my mind, at the back of it came the first bubbles.  Hints of things past.  Then bigger bubbles of memories I did not want to remember.  As I cast around to distract my self from these now cascading bubbles of unwanted memories I realized I had forgotten to put in my ear buds and start a podcast/ music.  

Even as I tried to get to my earbuds, my phone and start anything to distract my mind it happened.   The memory bubbles became one huge bubble and it burst into my mind like a huge wave followed emotionally like the kick of a mule.  I suddenly was not in my own home washing dishes but instead in a different place, listening to one of the boys I had grown up with tell me he knew I had been abused, ask me why I had not told him.  When I told him I had tried he discounted it as I did not try hard enough.  When I told him he also had abused me …he grew quiet, stopped demanding explanations from me ,and then with no trace of shame or remorse said “Ya but I was a blackout drunk so it was not my fault”.  

That conversation had happened over the phone and I can not remember how long ago.

The conversation devolved from there and my husband and son came home to find me in hysterics with my phone ringing.  My son blocked the calls and my husband got some of my medications into me and got me calmed down and into bed.  

This memory of this conversation then ran into other memory bubbles I hate and try always to suppress.  I have told people before and my doctors, I preferred my memories when they were locked in a chest, wrapped in chains and submerged deep in the ocean never to surface again.  Sadly that is not possible for  me.  They break through , they come out, most at the worst of time and always unexpected.  It is like a person jumping out at you shouting “boo”.  Some times it is easy to deal with and sometimes it knocks you off your chair.  

So I dealt.  I did what I had to do to finish the dishes.  I got my earbuds, and cranked up a podcast.  People do not understand why I have to have constant input into my head.  If I don’t my mind goes to those memories.  Then it hurts.  One of my doctors I went to said I am a “bunny”, that I was unable to protect my self from abuse”.  Ron told him ” Maybe in his childhood, but if anyone tried today he would kick their ass and then make them take notes”.  Ron told the doctor that protecting me was his job.  I never went back to that doctor.  


Milo was just hitting my hand and crying at me on my desk.  It was then I realized I am sitting here in the dark not seeing my screen nor anything around me.  I was stuck in my mind in a terrifying time long ago.  He is a good cat and friend, other animal friends may not have realized I need to be pulled from the tar pit I was in.  I am sore and hurting, but I am OK!

I really don’t have a close for this post.  I just wanted to some how explain how my mind works, how close to the surface and how suddenly the memories can hit.  No matter what I am doing, no matter what I see, no matter what I hear it can trigger my mind to go into the past and trap me there.  I love my computers and my blog / blog friend because they help me hold those memories at bay.  I thank all of you, you help me.   Best wishes.  Hugs

March 30, 2019

Teacher defends LGBTQ students and gets fired while racist bigoted flyers are only investigated.

March 26, 2019

Houston’s “Drag Queen Story Time” Will End Following Threats from Conservatives

Again conservative Christians ruin something fun and educational for kids.   These people are determined everyone will live by their myths.   Hugs

The main reason? The threats from conservatives were putting the performers, their families, and the children who attended the events at risk.

Protesters and counter-protesters continued to show up in great numbers. Tex Christopher continued to come to nearly every story time, watching from inside the room and waiting for any opportunity to prove what we were doing was vile. We cannot explain how it feels to put on a show while trying to avoid the stare of someone you know hates you. Another protester was arrested after he refused to leave the premises at the January event. It was discovered that he was carrying a concealed gun (he had a license). The patrons of the story time began to express concerns about safety, and the staff of the Freed-Montrose Library were threatened to such a degree that some were reassigned to different branches.

At this point, you can understand why Lira and Will are ready to move on.

… We have tried so hard to take the high road, to not stoop to mud-slinging. We have patiently listened to the people that declared we were sexualizing and molesting children. We have asked counter-protesters to be peaceful or not show up at all. We have been calm. We have been collected. But we are angry. And we are tired. And we are sick of well-intentioned but misinformed news stories that have only polarized people more. And so we wanted you to hear it from us.

… What started as a fun community event shared between us, a couple of drag queens and kings, and a few families has become a national controversy. People are being threatened. People are being hurt. We believe in what we’re doing, but we don’t believe in putting our friends, our families, or our children in danger.

March 25, 2019

Border Patrol detains 9 year old U.S. citizen for 36 hours after falsely accusing her of lying about her identity

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Dealing With Abuse, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 11:45

Damn, Damn, and again Damn these people.   When will they see the person, the child, instead of the race?  Angry hugs

In San Diego, the United States Border Patrol grabbed a girl who is 9 and a U.S. citizen and on her way to school, accused her of lying about her identity, then detained her for 36 hours.

They were reunited after the kid had been held away from her parents for 36 hours, when the Mexican consulate got involved.

It’s hard to imagine this sort of thing routinely happening under Trump’s white supremacist presidency to families who look differently. Say, blonde and white and wealthy.


Thelma Galaxia said her friend, Michelle Cardenas, was driving each of their two children from Tijuana, where they live, to their schools in San Ysidro Monday morning, as they do nearly every day.

Galexia’s 9-year-old daughter, Julia Isabel Amparo Medina, attends fourth grade at Nicoloff Elementary School and her 14-year-old son, Oscar Amparo Medina, attends ninth grade at San Ysidro High School. Both are passport-holding U.S. citizens.

Julia Medina told NBC 7 that CBP officers accused her of being someone else, her cousin Melanie. The children said officers also accused Oscar Medina of smuggling and other crimes which he said he didn’t understand.

“My daughter told her brother that the officer told her that if she admitted that she was her cousin, she would be released soon so she could see her mom,” Galaxia said.

“I was scared. I was sad because I didn’t have my mom or my brother. I was completely by myself,” Julia Medina said. She said she woke up several times throughout the night, sad because she wasn’t with her family.

Galaxia said officers made Oscar Medina sign a document that said his little sister was his cousin.

“That is not true,” Galaxia said. “She is my daughter. He was told that he would be taken to jail and they were going to charge him for human trafficking and sex trafficking.”

Oscar told NBC 7 he felt terrible for signing the document. He said he just wanted to see his sister.

When CBP officers told Galaxia that Oscar and Julia Medina were detained, she got the Mexican consulate involved.

CBP was asked by the San Diego NBC news reporters “why officers detained a 9-year-old U.S. citizen and kept her from her mother for 36 hours,” and a spokesperson said CBP “would respond to questions when it had more details on the case.”


March 24, 2019

Bigotry on display, it happened again!

Filed under: Bigotry, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 08:32

ACLU: Black man detained while moving into own Kansas home

The Kansas chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union on Thursday asked state officials to investigate after a black man was detained by police while moving into his home, then allegedly harassed for weeks and blocked by the police chief from filing a racial bias complaint with the department.

Karle Robinson, a 61-year-old Marine veteran, was held at gunpoint and handcuffed in August as he was carrying a television out of a rented moving van into the home he had bought a month earlier in Tonganoxie, about 30 miles (48 kilometers) west of Kansas City.

He added that if he were white “we wouldn’t even be having this conversation right now.”

The ACLU of Kansas said in a news release that it was a case of “moving while black” …

The incident involving Robinson is one of the latest examples of situations in which law enforcement officers have had encounters or confrontations with African-Americans over their own belongings. In the Chicago suburb of Evanston, Illinois, city officials approved a $1.25 million settlement with a black man who sued after police tackled him and arrested him for stealing a car that turned out to be his own.

Around 2:30 a.m. as he was carrying in his TV, the last item out of the moving van, Robinson was approached by an officer who pulled into the driveway. During the incident, which was captured on police body camera, the officer drew his gun and told Robinson to put down the TV.

“I just bought this house,” said Robinson, who followed the officer’s order about the TV.

“You just bought this house and you’re moving in at 4 in the morning?” the officer said.

Robinson told the officer he had paperwork inside the home that would prove he was the owner.

The officer asked Robinson to walk toward the house and put his hands on his head. He then handcuffed Robinson.

Once backup arrived, the officer and a second officer entered the home, brought out the paperwork and took the handcuffs off Robinson. The officers helped Robinson carry the TV in the house after he asked them to.

Police told Robinson there had been a string of burglaries in the area. An officer can be heard on the body camera video apologizing to Robinson and saying, “If you look at the situation, I think, I think you get it.” The officers thanked Robinson for his cooperation.

Robinson, who is retired and volunteers as a radio DJ at a Kansas City radio station, told the AP on Thursday that he considered it “a half-hearted apology.”

“But I mean, that is not the point. It shouldn’t have happened in the first place,” he said.

The ACLU contends that public records show no reported burglaries in the area. And for weeks after the incident, according to Robinson, Tonganoxie police frequently patrolled around his block, parked their squad cars directly across the street almost every evening and on one occasion followed him from his home for more than 7 miles (11 kilometers) until he reached the highway. He claimed that Lawson, the police chief, also stopped him in October from filing a racial bias complaint about the Aug. 19 incident and the police presence afterward, which Robinson said amounted to surveillance.

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March 23, 2019

A North Carolina Christian church is kidnapping children

It happened again. More toxic stuff the US exports

Costa Rica Quarantines U.S. Anti-Vaxx Missionary Family Who Brought Measles

A family of anti-vaxxer Christian missionaries from the United States is under a well-deserved quarantine after they brought measles to Costa Rica.

The 11-member family, including two parents and nine children, was placed under strict isolation orders after two of the kids tested positive for measles. Two others are still awaiting their test results, according to local reports.

In a press conference from the Presidential House the head of Health, Daniel Salas reported that the Costa Rican Institute for Research and Education in Nutrition and Health (INCIENSA) had confirmed that two children under 7 and 9 years old members of that family tested positive in measles, after receiving a few days ago the visit of another US citizen who showed symptoms of the disease.

The authorities confirmed that the 11 people of the family nucleus (father, mother and nine children) were unvaccinated, despite the fact that their home in Cóbano de Puntarenas was visited on three different occasions by Technical Assistants of Primary Health Care (ATAPS). In those visits no one was located inside the house and it was also confirmed that children between 1 and 17 years of age were not included in the Costa Rican Educational System, so they did not receive the vaccine during the periodic visit they made…

Minister Salas confirmed that the family has been living in Costa Rica for two years, they are missionaries and do not have social security. During the contagion period, they visited different locations in the Nicoya peninsula as well as in the province of Limón, forcing the authorities to expand the investigation to determine possible infections to other people without vaccination.

This is part of a larger global trend when it comes to measles cases. Earlier this month, I reported that Iceland was facing its biggest measles outbreak in decades thanks to an unvaccinated visitor. And in January, anti-vaxx beliefs were labeled a top 10 health threat by the World Health Organization.

February 21, 2019

We should understand


February 18, 2019

UTAH: Salt Lake City Police Seek Help Identifying Man Filmed In Assault After Asking If Victim Is Gay

Filed under: Bigotry, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Religion — Scottie @ 14:21

The Salt Lake Tribune reports:

Salt Lake City police are asking the public for help identifying a man who hit another after asking if he was gay. The assault is captured in an eight-second video posted to Twitter on Sunday by Sal Trejo and quickly spread through social media.

The assault took place downtown and the video starts with the suspect asking “Are you gay though?” Trejo responds, “Oh, I am.” That’s when the man smacks him with his right hand.

ABC News reports:

Trejo claimed the man punched him in the arm, pulled a knife on another member of his group and shoved one of his female friends.


February 4, 2019

WISCONSIN: Parents Charged In Torture Murder Of Young Boy Because He Couldn’t Memorize Bible Verses

Filed under: Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Harm, News, Religion, Sad — Scottie @ 17:23

This is again a hard subject to read or hear about.  It has triggered me and several people I know.  There is information here including I got the age of the abusive minor wrong, he was 15 not 16.  If  you are not in a safe place or able to handle the details of the murder of this 7 year old boy please skip this post.   Love and warm hugs to all.


February 3, 2019

Another child dead due to religious belief

Filed under: Children, Criminal, Dealing With Abuse, Harm, News, Political, Questions, Religion — Scottie @ 06:53

The boys injuries and what was done to him is too much for me to post here.  If you want to read it click on the link.  

A 7-Year-Old Boy Was Beaten and Killed for Not Memorizing Bible Verses

Another child’s death, courtesy of adults who loved the Bible more than they loved a child.

These people may be anomalies, but what’s not surprising is the idea that memorizing Bible verses matters far more than putting those verses into practice. It’s a reminder that pushing the Bible on kids in any sort of way, even in an extreme case like this, is useless. What matters is teaching ethics and values — which these adults clearly never did.

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