Scotties Toy Box

September 15, 2019

Still think race and wealth have nothing to do with it?

September 11, 2019

This what makes blogging hard

Filed under: Animals, Children, Family, People I like, Things I like — Scottie @ 18:38


September 7, 2019

I may someday get back to the blogs I love

Filed under: Children, Family, Harm, Health, My Life and Rants — Scottie @ 13:31

I have a cold.   On Wednesday I had two shots into my lower spine.   Hurt like hell and weaken me a bit.   Then on Thursday I went to the allergy doctors office in the early morning for my shots.   There I met a young girl, three or four years old.  I met her because she rushed up to me and wanted to talk, wanted to give me every magazine and booklet she could get her tiny hands on.   She also was coughing a lot.  I asked her mother who also had a teen age girl and boy with her if the little girl who wanted my attention had allergies.   “Oh no” replied the mother earnestly, “she has a cold”.   My heart sank.   I do not blame the little girl but I do blame the mother.   I have a depressed immune system normally and I had just gotten a bunch of steroids the day before.  So I knew I would get sick.   I guess the look on my face must have said how much I disapproved because the woman came and picked up her daughter and took her to the child sitting area where there was currently no other people.  I felt sorry for the next little kids to come in and go there to handle the crayons and papers for drawing that the sick girl did.  So sure enough.  I felt OK Thursday, some discomfort Friday.  Friday night was the start, full on start of a cold.  It was a bad night.  Today I am worse and feel like crap, my throat feels like someone is using sandpaper on it while throwing some salt on it at the same time.   I am stuffed up.  My body hurts more than normal.   Breathing is harder.  I have been choked to nearly vomiting a few times by the sinuses draining into my throat.  The worst part is Ron is making a turkey breast with the fixings and I wont be able to taste it or enjoy it.  So I will be back in a few days.  Love to all.   Hugs

Vote, a child needs you and their families need you

Filed under: Bigotry, Cartoons, Children, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, Memes, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 05:09

September 5, 2019

Oh good dogs! I have had enough of this, haven’t you?

Trump’s penchant for terrorizing and tormenting Latino children for political gain is literally causing irreparable trauma

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race, Sad — Scottie @ 08:24

From “inconsolable” crying to refusing to eat to feeling “terrified,” the emotional distress suffered by migrant children detained by the Trump administration at the southern border is conveyed by a new report from a government watchdog that emphasizes the trauma the children are going through.

Experiences of “intense trauma” were common for those children in care even before their arrival in country, such as being a victim of abuse or witnessing murder, the report noted. Those separated from their parents by U.S. authorities went on to experience greater emotional and mental pain.

From the report:

According to program directors and mental health clinicians, separated children exhibited more fear, feelings of abandonment, and post-traumatic stress than did children who were not separated. Separated children experienced heightened feelings of anxiety and loss as a result of their unexpected separation from their parents after their arrival in the United States. For example, some separated children expressed acute grief that caused them to cry inconsolably.Children who did not understand why they were separated from their parents suffered elevated levels of mental distress. For example, program directors and mental health clinicians reported that children who believed their parents had abandoned them were angry and confused. Other children expressed feelings of fear or guilt and became concerned for their parents’ welfare. The difficulties that some facilities had in locating parents in detention and scheduling phone calls also contributed to children’s anxiety and fear for their parents’ well-being.

Their psychological anguish sometimes manifested physically. “You get a lot of ‘my chest hurts,’ even though everything is fine [medically],” said one medical director quoted in the report. “Children describe symptoms, ‘Every heartbeat hurts,’ ‘I can’t feel my heart,’ of emotional pain.”

One problem noted by the observers was that kids couldn’t distinguish between care providers and immigration agents. “Every single separated kid has been terrified. We’re [seen as] the enemy,” said one program director in the report.

September 2, 2019

Christian-Owned Wedding Venue Refuses to Host Mixed Race Wedding Because Jesus

Filed under: Asshole / Jerk, Bigotry, Family, Fascism, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race, Religion — Scottie @ 11:20

Christian-Owned Wedding Venue Refuses to Host Mixed Race Wedding Because Jesus

When LaKambria Welch heard that Boone’s Camp Event Hall in Booneville, Mississippi was refusing to host her brother’s wedding, she wanted them to explain why to her face, so she went there… with a video camera.

A woman who works for the venue told Welch that, since the owners are Christian, they don’t host same-sex weddings… or mixed-race ones. Because Jesus.

The worst part of this story? While refusing to do business with customers on account of racism may be illegal regardless of reason, the only reason this venue may have thought they could get away with it is because, in 2016, Mississippi passed a “religious freedom” law that permitted businesses to discriminate against customers if serving them posed a faith-based conflict for the owners. (The law remains on the books despite a legal challenge.) The intention was to permit anti-LGBTQ bigotry. But is anyone surprised that these Christians believe it protects their racism? (For what it’s worth, the law itself doesn’t explicitly say race is an acceptable justification to refuse service.)

The irony is that conservatives always get furious when critics say these laws permitting discrimination by Christians are a slippery slope. We know they don’t want to serve gay couples, but when we argue the same rules could allow them to say no to Jews, mixed-race couples, etc., they cry foul and get defensive. How dare we accuse them of potential bigotry racism when they’re just trying to be devout Christians?!

Nope. Race isn’t totally different. It’s something else conservative Christians can use to discriminate against minority groups. Some bigots are even worse than usual.

It’s not the first time a Christian in Mississippi has done something like this within the past few years either. Christians refusing to take part in a mixed-race wedding is far more common than you might think.

September 1, 2019

Giving birth in detention

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Greed, Harm, Hate, Health, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 05:43

August 31, 2019

The New American Homeless

Filed under: Children, Criminal, Economics, Family, News, Political, Questions — Scottie @ 17:16

So much more at the link above, please give it a read.   Hugs

If the term “working homeless” has not yet entered our national vocabulary, there is reason to expect that it soon will. Hidden within the world of homelessness has always been a subset of individuals, usually single parents, with jobs; what’s different now is the sheer extent of this phenomenon. For a widening swath of the nearly seven million American workers living below the poverty line, a combination of skyrocketing rents, stagnant wages, and a lack of tenant protections has proved all but insurmountable. Theirs, increasingly, is the face of homelessness in the United States: people whose paychecks are no longer enough to keep a roof over their heads

August 28, 2019

A real President and a good man

Filed under: Children, Family, Funny videos, People I like, Political — Scottie @ 06:04

August 25, 2019

‘I thought she was going to die’: Parents separated from children after Mississippi ICE raids

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 07:39

“She told them ‘I have children. I have four children. I have one whom I’m breastfeeding,’” Ramirez said. “The official either didn’t hear her or didn’t care.”

Much more at the link above.   Hugs

The full might of the US government will be devoted to indefinitely detaining immigrant children in facilities that, to all intents and purposes, are concentration camps

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 06:09

August 22, 2019

George Takei Wants People to Stop Using the Phrase “Japanese Internment Camp

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, History, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 07:59

August 21, 2019

How Trump’s Family Separation Traumatized Children

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 17:47

I do not know how much more I can take.  These reports are giving me nightmares, yet how much worse is it for the families and the children?  Today my heart is heavy and I have cried more than I want to admit.  I feel helpless to help.  I just read how when a surge of children came to our border with a real President in charge money was spent helping them.  Facilities were quickly set up and got help from the communities.  Children were treated like family, they had people speaking their language helping them, they had classes, communities set up astro turf soccer areas.  There were on site mobile medical teams and counselors to help the children and families.  That is what the wealthiest nation on earth, the one its people keep saying is #1, does.  Well did back then.  Today it is a different nation bankrupt of heart, empathy, and decency.   Today the nations leaders see worth only in terms of skin color and wealth.  To be brown, black , or poor is to be not human in the US today.  I am tired.  I do not understand why these avengers with assault weapons do not want to free the children but instead want to kill people who look like them.   If I had the power, the money, I would try to save all of them.   All I can do today is share the information, their stories in the hope it helps them.  Tired hugs

When Children at the Border Got Compassion The United States has a moral responsibility for unaccompanied children—and took it seriously, at least in 2014.

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 17:18

It was hard for any of us to understand the trauma the children had already experienced. But we knew that our role—our moral responsibility—was not merely to deal with them, but to care for them. And that is exactly what our country did.

We set up multiple facilities on military bases, and HHS worked with a coalition of organizations to shelter these vulnerable children while we looked for proper guardians. There was an outpouring of local community support, from church groups making food to a nearby school donating artificial turf for a soccer field.

There is a heck of a lot of good information at the link above.  Please go give it a look over.   It shows a huge difference in attitude from the Obama years and today.  Then these kids were not invaders, they were refugees to be handled with compassion and concern.  It makes me sick how far into fascism and racism this country has turned.   Hugs


August 20, 2019

Let’s talk about PP and life after Title X….

Filed under: Economics, Family, Health, News, Political, Questions, Reason, Sex — Scottie @ 17:45

The authoritarian mentality is capable of justifying hideous things…

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Economics, Family, Fascism, Greed, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 17:26

The Descent Into Cruelty

Is America becoming a crueler place? In the last two days, I’ve seen three disturbing news stories. First, Boston police “cleaned up” part of the city’s South End by hassling homeless people and destroying their possessions. This is not atypical police behavior, but the Boston PD achieved newsworthy levels of callousness after they apparently literally threw disabled people’s wheelchairs into a trash compactor. Here, read Boston magazine’s report:

“You could hear the metal crushing noise. It was really loud. They just tossed it in and crushed it,” says Cassie Hurd, a Boston homeless advocate who at the time had been observing the area. Hurd says about 15 BPD and state police cruisers, along with a DPW trash truck, rolled up to Mass. Ave. after dark and began telling the people congregating there to leave. Any unattended items were confiscated, she says, including at least three wheelchairs. “We spent a significant amount of time with someone who lost his wheelchair. He is not able to be mobile without it, and not having a home, nowhere to sit, nowhere to go, and was having pain. He couldn’t really balance or walk,” Hurd says. “He had left his wheelchair for a minute and his partner tried everything to keep the wheelchair. She pleaded with police and was sobbing and crying. They took it and threw it in the back of the truck and it was devastating to watch. There was nothing anyone could do to prevent them from throwing it out.” The man, who she identified as Jarrod, told her he had been injured in a hit-and-run car crash about a week earlier and had been prescribed the wheelchair by a doctor. His backpack had also been taken and trashed in the sweep, she says he told her.

Next story: The government deported a schizophrenic man from Detroit, sending him to live on the streets of Baghdad. Jimmy Aldaoud had never lived in Iraq, and didn’t speak Arabic. In a desperate video he posted online from Iraq, Jimmy said:

“They wouldn’t listen to me… They wouldn’t let me call my family. Nothing. They just said: You’re going to Iraq and your best bet is to cooperate with us. That way we’re not going to chain you up; we’ll put you on a commercial flight. I begged them. I said, ‘Please, I’ve never seen that country. I’ve never been there.’ However, they forced me. I’m here now… I don’t understand the language. I’ve been sleeping in the street… I’m diabetic. I can’t get insulin shots. I’ve been throwing up, sleeping in the streets, trying to find something to eat. I’ve got nothing over here.”

Aldaoud died in Baghdad, alone and miserable, apparently from lack of access to insulin. “He was literally crying every day,” said his sister.

Third and finally, ICE conducted a series of immigration raids at Mississippi food-processing plants and arrested about 680 people, the largest single-state immigration raid in U.S. history. Children came home from school to find their parents gone. An ICE official replied to criticism of this: “We are a law enforcement agency, not a social services agency.” Here is 11-year-old Magdalena Gomez Gregorio tearfully begging for her father’s release:

“Government please show some heart, let my parent be free with everybody else please… My dad didn’t do nothing. He’s not a criminal.”

If the U.S. prison system were a state, it would have a larger population than New Mexico. (A larger population than a lot of states, actually.) And yet we don’t think of “Prison” as one of the 50 states. There are lots of ways to ignore it or rationalize it. All those people probably deserve it. If you can’t do the time, don’t do the crime.

So much more at the link above.  Please give it a read.   Hugs

August 18, 2019

It’s not just Donald Trump. Immigration agencies and officials also use language of hate.

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 18:26

But you should know that Trump is not alone.

The racist, anti-immigrant words the shooter wrote can also be found on Border Patrol and union websites. I heard them when I was an agent, toward the end of my career, and I still hear them today. Last weekend, while speaking to an El Paso Border Patrol agent, I heard them again.

Many Border Patrol agents view immigrants as “invaders” and their jobs as agents are part of a “war” with migrants. Asylum seekers are “illegal aliens” and “prisoners.” This racist ideology partially explains why agents are not concerned when asylum seekers die in their custody. It is also why they are so willing to violate the Constitution and American asylum law. 

Much more at the link above.  Hugs

August 14, 2019

The US government took, trafficked, and profited, then lost nearly 1,500 children. There could be more

Filed under: Bigotry, Children, Criminal, Family, Fascism, Harm, Hate, News, Political, Questions, Race — Scottie @ 07:53

August 13, 2019

Let’s talk about socially conditioned responses to domestic violence….

I think most of the people who come here know I was abused and lived in constant fear of the huge ( to a little boy and most men ) brute that terrorized my life.   But while I took the brunt of his abuse he also made clear his position to even his own brood.  He was the alpha in charge of the house and he would back it up with violence.  I seen him rip a door of the hinges to his daughters room because she pissed him off.  He did so by punching his fist right through the door.  

I want to point out that the video has a really good message.  If you really want to help the victim, get them out of the situation.  Many people in my little cow town knew I was being abused, and many offered what comfort they could.  But none of them tried to take me out of the abuse.  

Which leads me to the point Beau makes.  When I was about 13 or 14 I was working for a local family who had a basket weaving shop.  It was a big business.  The man who ran it was a 6 foot something ex-marine.   They were friends with my adoptive parents and had even bought me clothing when I really need it.  I was happy to work in the shop and felt welcome if  awkward there.    One afternoon my adoptive father came into the shop angry, found me and started hitting me and beating me up.  I to this day do not know how he knew or who ran and told him but Dave the owner showed up and went into combat mode.  As his wife grabbed me and tried to take me out of there I seen most of the fight.  Francis was short but stock and hugely muscled and a brawler, Dave was an marine who had seen combat and younger.  For the first time in my life I felt so happy with joy, someone had stood up for me.  I was not alone, I was going to be safe.  Surely after that fight he wouldn’t hurt me any more!

The truth was he never hurt me in front of Dave again.  But when I got home that afternoon Dave was not there.  There was no big former marine to defend me.  I was a small scrawny kid facing a brawler that had gotten the bad end of a fight.  Some one needed to pay for that, and I did.  I wont describe what happened, I think you all can guess. I will only say it was bad.  Really bad.  

Thinking you can play the hero and stand up for the abused is great, if you plan on being there day and night until the abuser is gone, never to come back.  But doing it once in a store or in the case of the video going and beating the bad guy up only leaves them free to take that anger out on the victim.  I know, I was the victim.  Anyway I am upset and tired and going to bed.  Please watch the video.  Be safe, be happy, and hugs

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