February 21, 2017
February 9, 2017
Before I start my day of reading blogs and answering emails, I wish to address an issue that has me somewhat confused. On several blogs I follow there has been a running discussion about the progressive left and the regressive left. I did not realize this was a major topic of discussion as I assumed the left was simply the party that wanted the best things for people. Yes I knew there was some disagreement on how to pay for the many programs the people on the left felt were needed, however I did not realize how big a divide the issues have become.
I started noticing this about the time the white supremacist Spencer was punched in the face. The debate was on if the people on the political left should punch people they did not like in the face. I figured this was so simple a question that no one would need a second guess. However there was an outcry with the different sides throwing out terms like SJW and SNOWFLAKE with the occasional NAZI. Now I did not realize how much division the sjw and snowflake labels caused. I have to admit I am some what hazy on just what is a social justice warrior and I have no desire to needlessly harm others if they are in a sensitive or hurt possition. I care about people. Now I will address snowflake more in a minute.
I once was accused of being a sjw and I felt honored. I did not know the term and it took some people I really trust to inform me that the term was not used as a complement but an insult. I wondered why? I thought fighting for others who were maybe disadvantaged and unable to stand up for themselves was an honorable thing. The term brought to my mind some hero trying to make things better, defending the weak and protecting those who couldn’t protect themselves. I guess others felt my idea was simplistic and wrong.
I guess the way people use the term SJW is someone tilting at windmills and creating a problem where one doesn’t exist. I am still not sure as to what a sjw really is. I get the feeling others think sjws inject themselves into areas that they are not needed or wanted, finding a problem where none exist. It seems to comes with the idea that sjws are trying to force a version of restrictive social rules on to everyone even if the others around them don’t wish the restrictions. That seems to me the opposite of what a social justice warrior should be. If this is what is meant then they need to pick a better term to use. They are social rules dictator or socially repressive enforcers. I still have issues with the meanings of these things. I still feel I am what I term a fighter for others and someone who works for and wants a better social structure.
Now the term snowflake is harder for me. I feel in some ways snowflakes have two different categories. The term some people use is a person who is spoiled and want the world to accommodate them unfairly. A person who is unreasonable about insisting only their view of the world is allowed. The other version is a person who is harmed, fragile, needing help, suffering from a past event. I think of snowflakes as the second group. I think of snowflakes as bunnies in a world of bigger predators who will hurt them and they have no defence. I would defend those in the second group. Let me explain why. As some people know I am a survivor of long time abuse. Sexual, physical, emotional. I prefer not to talk about it, I hid it for most of my life until I couldn’t hide it anymore. I am only now learning how to confront it and still dislike talking about it. But if you go back in time on my blog you will find that years ago a psychologist treated me for issues surrounding the abuse , how it was affect my daily life and how I was dealing with it. The psychologist concluded I was a bunny in temperament. In his view I was not able to defend myself and needed others to do that for me. It was weird because I was quite able to defend others and I had no problem using force to protect those who needed protecting. However I never once asked the world to change for me. I never asked for things that triggered me to be taken off the web, banned from the social environment or taken off any media. I have talked before about things that trigger me, a video or show about child abuse will send me into a really bad place where I have to deal with the memories that never seem to quite go away. I have started to read books and been triggered into deep depressions and emotional vortex that try to destroy me. Here is an example. When I first started to read the Harry Potter books I had a horrible time with the beginnings of most of the books. It was triggering to have a small boy unable to defend himself treated that way. Even now it is very upsetting to me. I can’t watch those parts of the movies. I forced myself on first reading the books to quickly get through those pages while making sure to be in a safe space and to have outs around me. I can not reread those pages now that I know what is there and I can’t watch those parts of movies. However I do not expect the books or movies to be changed to take those parts out. I do not want the rest of the world who feel this adds to the richness of the story to have to lose that just for me. In this case the good of the one is not more important than the good of the many. I have a problem, I can find ways to deal with it and I have. I hope I have explained well enough what I mean by snowflake and how I do think we should help people with real problems while asking people who simply want the world to accommodate only them to please let the world live their lives also. If not please tell me and I will try to reword it. Thanks.
I would like to step back and address one thing at this time. There has been much talk of trigger warnings. I think they are both a good thing for some people while at the same time I think they should not be required or mandated. Here is my reasoning. It is nice for me to know if a story I am about to read or watch will show sexual or physical abuse. I can take actions from preparing myself to see it, deal with it, or to avoid the material all together. However just because you get a warning it doesn’t mean you have real understanding of what will be shown or described. Plus if you miss the warning it won’t do you any good anyway. For an example my son had starting to watch a show on the TV. I came into the living room and decided to watch it with him. He never thought it out and I did not know what was coming. The program showed in graphic detail the rape and sexual abuse of a child. They just splashed it out on screen. My son realized I was in the room and tried to get the thing off the TV. He was too late. I was freaking out. I had a heck of a time after. But a lot of people would freak with that type of material thrown at them while they are unprepared. It was what the show people wanted for a response. I just get more affected than others who were not abused would. A warning wouldn’t have done me any good nor did my son know that would be in the show to warn me. So I think these trigger warnings have a place in our society but I don’t think they should be mandatory nor depended on to solve all triggering problems.
Let me sum this long post up by returning to what we started with, the punching of some one based on their ideas. I wouldn’t think this needed debate. The answer is no, you shouldn’t ever punch or use violence against someone for their thoughts or positions. No matter how much you disagree or think what they are endorsing is disgusting as long as it is an idea and not an action you can not, you should not, use force on another person. Yes white supremacist and fascist ideas are repugnant, but as long as they are simply ideas and not actions then no you can’t punch them. Here is why. If I can punch someone or hurt someone who has ideas I dislike and think horrible, that gives others who think what I believe and do is horrible and they dislike it, to punch me. IF a white nationalist can be punched for being that, then they can punch gay or non-white people as they think the same things about them. It simply lets violence loose on everyone and ends all attempts to move the society to a more progressive place. Also it forces others to defend the ones who got punched and I hate to have to defend a racist bigot.
Thank you. Hugs
February 6, 2017
Good morning. I overslept and I am just getting started. I really need the sleep. This was a great video to watch first thing. It is uplifting and ends in hope. I like hope. I guess I am a dreamer because I look forward to a day when people mean more than boarders. I had often hoped that the three major states in the continent would join, becoming simply one. Canada, the US, and Mexico joined as one people. I know it will take time. I know people will want to keep parts of their own culture and will want respect for their heritage. We have vastly different cultures in our own country and until recently we managed to get along. We managed to respect each other. We all want a future like in Star Trek. However to get there means works. It means give and take. It also means reining in religions and any ideology that seeks to dominate everyone else. I recently watched a religious leader say they needed FADA because they should be able to have their faith in the public square. They can already do that. They can pray in public, they can preach in public, they can gather in public. What they can’t do it force others to do that with them. They can’t force others to pray in public, to wear what they insist on, to listen to their preachers, to gather in their meetings. That is the thing they want. To force others to do as they do. That is wrong. They are not being persecuted, they want to persecute. The world of peace if out there. It can be ours if we learn to respect others. To let other be if it is not hurting us. To kill someone because you are worried about their soul yet willing to destroy their body, is a weird concept. So worship what you want, celebrate the culture you want, but live in harmony with others, respect the same things in others you demand for yourself. Hugs
February 3, 2017
January 12, 2017
I am burning one of the candles I made and it melted down into a weird and wonderful shape. I thought I would practice my photography using it. I took some with the flash on, and some with the flash off. Hope you enjoy them. Hugs
We have a grand friend who is supremely talented and creative. He has a wonderful way of making things. He made me a cane and toy box for me, and he carved a plaque for Ron and I on our Marriage. Today is the anniversary of our legal marriage and he sent us these awesome handmade gifts. I don’t know how he does these intricate pieces. He must have the world’s steadiest hands and the deepest level of patients. Please note the dragon box that we can put an LED light in. Those dragons are carved out of the piece of wood that surrounds them. They are not cut out and glued in, he did them from one piece. The same for the ornaments. I am stunned at such a great gift. I would have ruined so much wood trying to even get part of them correct. Our friend has skill. Hugs
January 10, 2017
This was in a comment left by Professor Taboo on a post by Nan here https://sayitnow.wordpress.com/2017/01/06/fiction-or-non-fiction . I think this is important to hear, see, and understand. I have been reading the posts and comments on several blogs where at least one person and normally more will argue for the never changing word of God, the idea that god inspired and wrote the bible, or that we can take the magic parts out and the bible now is true and the characters and places are correct. I disagree with these assumptions. However if you want to know where I have been spending my time and you have hours and hours to try to follow the comments here are the links. I find there are different people in these comments. Those willing to listen and then apply their own reasoning. Those who run in circles never giving an inch from their position and not content to let others disagree. Those who answer in nonsense thinking they are somehow connected to god itself. Also there are people who use overly broad statements they want others to take as fact, which I can’t do. It is like someone saying to me “all highways are five lanes wide, it is a well know fact and everyone agrees”. No not every one agrees, and yes some are five lanes wide and some most certainly are not. So I am enjoying reading the comments. I also get frustrated reading the comments. I know which ideas make more sense to me and I like the ones I agree with . I do recommend if you are interested in these things like I am ( I love a well reasoned position) I suggest you not only go to this post by Nan https://sayitnow.wordpress.com/2017/01/06/fiction-or-non-fiction , but to the current long debate on Nate’s blog here https://findingtruth.info/2016/12/24/which-nativity-story/ . Above I mentioned a few broad categories of the people you will find, but really it is a much more diverse group than what I described. I have to say I personally like it when a person will give their view based on such and then will show the link to the item or what the item says. I do not like the statement “well most people see it this way”, as that gives me no reason why they see it that way. I won’t tell you who makes more sense to me in either discussion and who I dislike because you should have the fun of finding out for yourself who you like and disagree with. I left my couple of comments and then backed out to simply read all the others. I find some are close to what I said and some are not. Enjoy in the spirit of learning and thinking. Hugs